Michael and I met 16 years ago at movie theater when our mutual friend, Alan, invited us out for a movie night. I was single and was in the process of coming out, and Michael was fully in the closet. At first sight we were instantly drawn to each other; however, it wasn’t until after our next movie, where it was just the two of us, that we became inseparable.
Wow, it’s crazy to think that was 16 years ago this February! The movie we saw was the most un-romantic movie, called “What the Bleep Do You Know?” That said, our mutual love of movies has always brought us closer to who we are and each other.
We chose to have a Small Wedding on the beach with just Michael, myself, Alan (officiant), Lisa Vanderpump (Yes that LVP) and Marla (our amazing photographer), because we couldn’t wait any longer to make it official. To be fully transparent this was our second Wedding so to speak. We had our large dream Wedding with our families on New Year’s Eve; however, due to unforeseen circumstances we couldn’t make it official that day. So we decided to celebrate again with a party in Miami Beach (our residence in the winter). Then the pandemic started… We, of course, postponed the party and decided to get officially married on the beach at The 1Hotel on 10.10.2020. Alan and Lisa Vanderpump (via a Cameo video) officiated our Sunrise Sand Ceremony. The service was so magical, intimate and exactly us!
We love to say, “We can do absolutely nothing together with the best of them.” Meaning, that just being with each other is what we love to do, it really doesn’t matter what we are doing. As Lisa Vanderpump said in our ceremony, “Laugh together, cry together, be comforted by each other’s presence, and secure in each other’s absence.” With that said, we love to travel, play golf, attend concerts and Fine Art Exhibitions and of course, watch movies together.
Our best relationship advice is to start couple’s counseling now, not wait until you need it. We have been going to couple’s counseling for about 14 years and refer to it as our preventative relationship-care because it has taught us, along with many, many things, that it is so important to get ahead of issues before they become “problems” and that the “problems” you think you have with the other person are really problems you have within yourself. Counseling helps you unpack those childhood wounds and meet your inner little boy or girl so that you can listen to, see and tell your inner child that everything will be ok because Todd the adult is here to help you and take control. You go play and be happy because everything you need is in you, and it is your birthright to live fully, freely and fabulously.
Venue: Private Residence
Photographer: Marla Manes Photography