HOW DID YOU MEET?
Met in New York through the dating website OkCupid in 2013.
Adam: I had made a rule with myself to only engage with/date one guy at a time (there’s too much noise when you’re online with access to so many people). Tyler messaged me while I was out on a date with someone else, so I was sad not to respond, but was going to stick to my rule. The other guy ended up being too hung over for our second date, so I messaged Tyler back and never went on a date with anyone else again.
Tyler: I had been on a string of dates with guys that weren’t feeling right to me. When I first saw Adam on OKCupid, he stood out like none other. His photos were adorable beyond belief! And I could tell from his profile he was extraordinarily creative, playful, and above all else, seemed really sincere. I thought to myself, this one is special, that’s the kind of person I want to be with. I really had a magical feeling about it when I messaged him. He waited a day to get back to me, but as soon as he did, I got his phone number and asked him on a date. We met in person on a Sunday afternoon in Union Square, and the second he looked up at me he immediately said he needed to find a restroom. As I waited outside, I thought to myself, brace for rejection! But as it turned out, he really did just need to use the restroom. We ended up spending a long time getting to know each other on a park bench, and I was reassured when he accepted a further invitation to dinner. By the end of our date, we walked back to the train station and had our first sweet kiss.
SHARE A LITTLE BIT ABOUT THE PROPOSAL .
Adam: On Valentine’s Day, Tyler floated the idea of going to London and Paris – he had never been out of the country and I had been dying to see those cities. We went to The Louvre, enjoyed ourselves outside of a café for an unending Parisian lunch, and then walked over to the Luxembourg Gardens. We found a place to sit on the edge of the fountain and I immediately became distracted by the ducks swimming nearby. (A common occurrence.) Tyler started talking about how we should start planning or lives together (I, still entranced by the duck nearest me was not understanding what was happening) and asked me to marry him. He pulled out a ring box with rings for each of us and I said yes. It was such a beautiful setting-weather and all…and quite unexpected. It really took a while to sink in.
Tyler: When we first met, Adam mentioned he specifically wanted to go to Disney World (which we did early on, and had a blast) and also to Paris. I had imagined long ago, Paris would be the place I would propose to him. I bought our rings ahead of the trip, anxiously carried them through airport security, and kept them hidden on me for several days. When I finally felt the timing was right, I pounced! I was so nervous my speech fell apart and I forgot to lower to one knee. He was busy communicating with nearby ducks by the fountain, but once I got his attention, it was in fact the perfect setting I had dreamed of. And best of all, he said “yes”! Afterward, we walked to a grassy lawn and I literally collapsed in relief. We each have platinum bands from Tiffany. Adam has a small diamond embedded in his ring. We later had them engraved with “Paris 5-2-2016” in script (the date of our engagement).
HOW LONG WERE YOU ENGAGED?
About 2.5 years
WHAT WAS YOUR PLANNING EXPERIENCE LIKE?
Did you hire a planner or day-of coordinator, or did you DIY all the way?
Adam: Our venue, Norwood, offered a coordinator along with the rental. Rachelle was awesome and helped us think about details ahead of time and then executed everything perfectly. I am an event planner by trade, and Tyler is meticulous by habit, so together we able to put it all together ourselves. As a social club, Norwood was able to offer all food and beverage services, so it was really nice to not have to select outside vendors. I dabble in floral design and had help from my friends and family to execute, Tyler designed all the printed pieces (from the invitations to the place settings, etc.), assembled the playlists, and really headed up the organization of the day.
SUMMARIZE THE DAY’S VIBE. WHAT FEELING WERE YOU GOING FOR (fun, classic, formal. etc)?
Adam: A FUN fancy house party where creativity and imagination carried everyone away.
DID YOU WRITE YOUR OWN VOWS? IF YES, CAN YOU SHARE SOME HIGHLIGHTS?
Adam: We did. We kept them short, but I talked about how generous Tyler is and promised to show more patience (especially when planning trips), to tell Tyler how handsome he is, and above all, to love being loved by him.
Tyler: I described how I knew he was special from the very beginning, but I could never have imagined how much he would change my life, and how grateful I am for him and his love.
LOOKING BACK, WHAT WAS YOUR FAVORITE MOMENT OF THE WEDDING? DESCRIBE IT.
Adam: The whole night was incredible, but having friends contribute their talent throughout the night was probably the most memorable. Everyone who performed is so talented and they all did an incredible job. They were all planned to also help transition the evening and set the tone for each section of the wedding, so it was really cool to see the energy shift in response to each of them.
WHAT WEDDING ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO YOUR BEST-ENGAGED FRIEND?
Adam: Since we paid for it all ourselves, we made it 100% our own and the originality and sheer joy of the day was felt by and contributed to by all of our guests. We had no drama and had it be a day of exactly what we wanted. We would say to not let tradition or other people’s wishes get in your way of making your day your own. People go to so many weddings, but that’s not a reason to bore them; your own take will be enjoyed by guests and you’ll be glad you did it your way.