Two women help each other through recovery, transition, and overcoming the odds… this is Jessica and Auri’s wedding story.
Jessica & Auri have helped each other through it all, Auri helped Jessica through her addiction and Jessica helped Auri through her transition. Together they share two beautiful children and they are now complete by tying the knot.
Q1: Tell us about your wedding!
A1: Our wedding was absolutely perfect for us. My wife Auri has always lived a very conservative life as a closeted transgender woman. So our wedding was a representation of our journey together and the blossoming of our love. Our inspiration was that love conquers all. Blush and Champagne, were the featured colors. However, both burlap and wood ornaments were used to help tie in the rustic theme. Both wedding dresses accent rustic leaves with hints of diva glam and sparkle. Both of our families believe in the bride walking down the aisle to their spouse, we chose to -like most decisions we make, break tradition. We created our own Family tradition by saying our vowels under a triangle arbor, which represented recovery. Each side of the triangle represents a tradition followed within recovery. These are our promises to each other. To be honest, loyal, and courageous in everything we do.
Q2: Let’s talk wedding decor. How did you decorate your space for the ceremony and the reception? Was any part of the decor DIY?
A2: If we could put a label on the decorations, I would consider them rustic chic. The majority of our decorations were handmade, hand-selected, and hot glued together. We only gave ourselves three months to plan, coordinate, and strategize our wedding’s look and schedule. At specific points, we were limited to only one hour a day for DIY. We made the candles, bridal bouquets, burlap draping, and wooden platters featured under every golden globe centerpiece. The most challenging (yet creative) DIY was our homemade liquid soaps, which we presented as “thank you” gifts to our guests. We thought it would be a great item to have, considering this was all amidst a global pandemic.
Q3: What were the florals like in your wedding? Did you use flowers in any of your design elements like the bridal bouquets, centerpieces or ceremony backdrop? Did they play an important part in the overall style of your wedding?
A3: You can thank Hobby Lobby and hot glue for all of our floral arrangements. We featured Eucalyptus, Blush Peonies, and YellowWildflower Bud Bush included art deco pearls and burlap wrapping. Ps: If you want to make your bouquets make sure to buy double the amount of floral tape you’d expect to use. If you’re feeling boujee, buy the finger silicone caps, and you’ll thank me later.
Q4: Did you personalize the day in any way (food trucks, guest entertainment etc.)? What were some of your favorite parts of your wedding?
A4: Our favorite part of our wedding is, without a doubt, the pool jump at the end of the night. Extreme and spontaneous, it was the perfect way to end the ceremony. However, there were many unique features, such as the firework show, the sparkler sendoff, our son’s cool dance moves to the remixed baby shark song.
Q5: Let’s talk fashion. How did you both choose your wedding day look? Describe the looks in detail.
A5: We didn’t have a planned goal for personal looks. We went with what made us individually feel beautiful. We both have very different tastes in fashion. My wife Auri adores 1940’s midi sundresses, she loves regal, refined clothing, and you can often find her wearing my great grandmother’s pearls. So when we found her high neck, slim fitted bedazzled wedding gown, we immediately bought it. However, I’m pretty fluid in my taste of fashion. I sometimes like wearing dresses and other times wearing leather jackets, jeans, and combat boots. I picked the first dress I saw and had to do last-minute alterations. We kept our overall styles pretty standard with what our day to day beauty routines are! We were adding glam to our final look with accessories and our beautiful wedding dresses.
Q6: How did you meet? Tell us about the proposal.
A6: We met back in 2013 through mutual friends. It wasn’t until May of 2017 that we began talking romantically. My son at the time was five months old and Auri (my wife) immediately jumped in to be part of our life. It’s been three years we now have another beautiful child. Her name is Matilda. We’ve also adopted a cat named sage, our leopard gecko Neptune, and three rat’s brie, raisin, and Sophie. Auri proposed to me on February 26th, 2020. We planned for a great date night away from the children. Tattoos, Crab legs, and a walk on the beach. While my fingers were completely covered in garlic butter my wife proposed to me. It was brilliantly perfect!
Q7: What was the most anticipated or special moment of your wedding day?
A7: Auri: Getting to stand under our arbor and sharing our vowels. I was curious as to what my wife was going to say, what my sister (our officiary) would say. Everything was unrehearsed and genuine. Jessie: My favorite is knowing she’ll take my family name. I’m very proud to introduce her to our family name, I could not have picked a better woman to represent our legacy. She’s the best and even more than I ever thought I deserved.
Q8: Do you have any wedding planning or marriage advice that you’d like to share with other couples planning their day?
A8: I received this advice from my boss, and so I pass it on to you. Make a list of the top ten most important things you want to experience at your wedding. One is the most important, and ten is moderate in preference. Anything below the seventh goal/ wish, leave it up to god, the universe, or whatever. Let it go! Weddings are stressful and chaotic, but you should still enjoy yourself.Advice: Be open to learning your partner. You don’t know everything, people are evolving, and people change.
Venue: Private Residence
Photographer: Kenzie Rae Photography