Teddy and Eric tied the knot at a beautiful historical home in Mandeville, Louisiana, just across the water from New Orleans. They celebrated with their closest friends and family surrounded by the lush vegetation of the South, which they incorporated into their decor with succulents and eucalyptus leaves. They danced the light away to the crooning of a six-piece band, and still made time to sneak away to a private gazebo for romantic couple portraits.
Tell us about your wedding! What was the inspiration behind your day? Did you have a specific theme, style or color palette? Did you incorporate any cultural or religious traditions in any part of your day?
Our wedding was incredible. We were married on May 10th, 2019 in Mandeville, LA at a historic home called Maison Lafitte. We had an evening wedding, and due to rain, it was held in the covered pavilion at the rear of the home. We invited about 200 of our friends and family and had about 150 attend the wedding. We were married by one of our long-term friends who personalized the ceremony and was able to really capture our relationship. The day was really amazing and a great evening and celebration with our friends and family. For many of our family and friends, this was their first “gay” wedding, and I think we exceeded expectations. In terms of theme, we didn’t choose a specific theme, but from the very beginning of planning, we knew we wanted to focus the wedding around lavender and succulents. This influenced most of the remaining decisions around the wedding including the floral arrangements, the color palette, and our clothing. While we did not include cultural traditions in any part of our day, Teddy is a member of the Coyote Valley Band of Pomo Indians and will likely participate in a traditional cultural ceremony later this year or next.
How did you meet? Tell us about the proposal.
Eric and I met while I was visiting New Orleans. We matched on a dating app (Tinder) and met later that evening for drinks at a bar. After hours of chatting and talking, we both really connected. However, I was living in Washington, DC at the time and was leaving early the next morning. So Eric took me to the airport and paid for me to come back two weeks later. That’s when we decided to start dating, long distance, with the goal of moving together by the following May. We visited each other every other weekend until I moved to New Orleans the following June. Christmas is my favorite holiday, so I decided to propose to me around Christmastime. Initially, he planned on proposing to me at his sister’s Christmas party, but his family convinced him to make it a little more special. The day after Eric’s birthday, we went to a Reveillon dinner, a traditional New Orleans Christmas tradition, with his family under the guise of a birthday dinner. Afterward, we went to a local Christmas Festival to take pictures in front of the big Christmas Tree. Eric proposed to me in front of the tree. Eric had asked for my mom’s permission almost a month earlier.
Do you have any wedding planning or marriage advice that you’d like to share with other couples planning their day?
In terms of wedding planning, I think it’s important that couples take the time to discuss expectations, wants, and needs. We decided that each of us got to choose one thing that they absolutely wanted. I chose the venue, and Eric chose the band. These were non-negotiable things, while other things could be changed if necessary. This helped us manage our budget while making sure both of us got at least one thing we both wanted out of it. I would also say that, if you can afford it, make sure you get a planner. At the very least, a day-of planner is absolutely necessary. Lastly, make sure to eat before, or schedule a time after the ceremony and before the reception. We were given this advice, and I’m so grateful, because there was no time for anything other than talking and dancing with family and friends.