Jackie & Katelyn went to middle school with each other, but never talked. They went to high school with each other but it wasn’t until after high school, they met again at a local bar. Fate brought these two together. Their wedding was absolutely gorgeous. The ceremony was full of true love. Their organist was from their church at home in Massachusetts. The whole ceremony had everyone crying. Then, after the ceremony we got an amazing photo of everyone from their wedding on the stairs w/ Jackie and Katelyn in front while everyone did the ASL sign for ‘I love you’ since Katelyn is an audiologist. It spoke volumes about the love their friends and family have for their relationship. The entire day was perfect and the reception was perfect too.
Q1: Tell us about your wedding! What was the inspiration behind your day? Did you have a specific theme, style or color palette? Did you incorporate any cultural or religious traditions in any part of your day?
A1: Our wedding was inspired by a color them of various silver grays and purples. We used skeletons keys as inspiration for a theme that could be described as vintage glam. We used a lot of antique type items in combination with crystal and more elegant pieces. While our reception venue offered an amazing ceremony spot on the water, we chose to have our ceremony at a local church affiliated with our church from home. This was important to us as a same sex couple. We used our organist from our own church and the pastor from the church who married us was someone who became very special to us and was an amazing part of our day. She allowed us to create our own ceremony and guided us eery step of the way.
2: Let’s talk wedding decor. How did you decorate your space for the ceremony and the reception? Was any part of the decor DIY?
A2: Our decor was very much DIY. Our venue itself was gorgeous but to make it our own we worked hard to create our own centerpieces and special decorations to create our own special look. Centerpieces were made by hand and included mirror charger stands, varying crystal LED lamps, handmade LED votives with flower petals surrounding it so it appears the center of the flower was a candle. One very special custom piece was envisioned by myself but came to fruition with the help of my father who is a carpentar by trade. Since skeleton keys were a main part of our decor, we had silver skeleton key bottle openers attached to custom drink coaster that had the guest name and table number on it. These were hung on hooks under framed lists on freestanding custom made doors that had a “shadow box window” with a picture of us light in the center. At the top of the doors it said “The Key to your seat”. This was beyond anything we had envisioned when we described it o my father and a surprise to us when we saw it put together with our key/coaster place cards on out wedding day. We also had a kids area with activities and candy bar for the children at out wedding.
Q3: What were the florals like in your wedding? Did you use flowers in any of your design elements like the bridal bouquets, centerpieces or ceremony backdrop? Did they play an important part in the overall style of your wedding?
A3: Our flowers brought together the whole color scheme of our wedding. We used purple and white calla lilies and purple roses as the main flowers with varying other flowers to bring the arrangements together. Flowers were not something we had cared too much about originally and some what last minute decided to use a family friend who is florist to do our flowers for us. We gave her pictures and a general guideline for what we wanted and it exceeded our expectations! Ultimately, this became a beautiful and important piece to our wedding style, tying everything together.
Q4: Did you personalize the day in any way (food trucks, guest entertainment etc.)? What were some of your favorite parts of your wedding?
A4: We made custom welcome bags for all our guests to begin the weekend as many our them were from out of town. We had custom doozies, sunglasses, and bracelets as favors for our guests as well. This helped personalize things for us a bit. However, I think my favorite part of the wedding day was actually our ceremony. This is typically the part of weddings that can drag on and we were nervous this would be the case for us the same as it has been for the weddings we have attended. However, this is what we have been complimented on the most! Our ceremony was very much us, easy going but traditional at the core. It was real and honest and focused on love. It was not too serious but emotional all the same. After the ceremony it was important to me that we get a picture with us in front of the church with all our wedding guests making the ASL sign for “I love you” since I am an Audiologist. We got this photo and so much more. It speaks volumes about the love and support we have for our relationship.
Q5: Let’s talk fashion. How did you choose your wedding day look? How did the groom? Describe both looks in detail.
A5: My wedding dress was decided upon in one of those, “you just know” moments. I had an idea of what I wanted and actually had tried on a dress without anyone knowing that I thought was “the one”. I went with my mother and mother in law to try on dresses thinking it was all just for show until I tried on this one dress. I wanted lace, fitted, vintage inspired, and it had to have buttons down the back as my Meme’s wedding dress had a full back of buttons and was always something I loved. When I tried this dress on I forgot all about the other dress I had fallen in love with. This was the real ONE. It was everything I wanted but never would have envisioned. I cannot imagine a more perfect gown to get married in. For my wife, a gown was not an option. She had never wanted to wear a dress and many tried to push for a white suit or tux. This was a special project we worked on together. We found an amazing designer on Etsy who has experience making custom tuxes for women. We wanted a light gray tux/suit to match those of our “bridesmen”, however we wanted hers to fit her perfectly and be custom for a woman’s body. We had a custom french cuff sleeve shirt in ivory along with a custom paisley print vest made. It fit her wonderfully and made her feel like the bride she wanted to be.
Q6: How did you meet? Tell us about the proposal.
A6: Jackie and I met originally in middle school at the age of 12! However, despite spending the next 6 years together in the same class for middle and high school, we barely spoke. We had mutual friends and knew of each other but somehow never ended up becoming friends directly. After graduating high school in 2005 we went our separate ways until a chance meeting when we ran into each other at a local bar years later in 2011. Instead of one of those forced, awkward, small chit chat “how have you been” conversations we were both expecting to have, we have a really good natural conversation. If only that was then end of it though! After that night it took another chance situation for us to start talking to each other. A friendship began, then a slow romance, and finally it came to a point where neither of us could deny our feelings for each other and we became a couple about a year later.
Q7: What was the most anticipated or special moment of your wedding day?
A7: Seeing each other for the first time and our vows! This is something we wanted to keep traditional in not seeing each other before walking down the aisle. Jackie never saw my dress. While I did help her with her tux creation, I was not able to see it all put together. We also wanted to write our own vows to each other. This was important and beyond meaningful to both of us. I am used to public speaking, but this was the hardest thing I have written in m whole life as every word was special and truly meaningful to me. When we finally read our vows to each other we were both surprised at how similar they were in what were promised and said to each other. In that moment, despite being in a room of almost 200 people, it truly felt like it was just she and I alone focused souly on each other and our promise to spend this new life together.
Q8: Do you have any wedding planning or marriage advice that you’d like to share with other couples planning their day?
A8: LAUGH! Whatever goes wrong on your wedding day will not be the end of the world, but instead a funny story you tell one day. Enjoy planning it together and remember this is a vision you are creating together for your special day. Decide what things are really important to you and what are really important for your fiancé. At the end of the day people remember the love in the room and the vibe that puts off…the rest follows!Enjoy your day…you’ll regret it if not because you can’t go back!