Be Guided by Knowledge, Not Fear
In his new book, infertility expert Dr. Mark P. Trolice of Fertility CARE: The IVF Center tells LGBTQ patients what they need to know—and avoid—in their quest for parenthood.
More LGBTQ millennials plan to have kids regardless of income, survey finds as reported by NBC. Family Equality polled 500 LGBTQ and 1,004 non-LGBTQ adults, and found that the desire to become parents is nearly identical among both lower- and higher-income lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer people.
In Chapter 22 (LGBTQ Fertility Options), of Dr. Trolice’s new book The Fertility Doctor’s Guide to Overcoming Infertility: Discovering Your Reproductive Potential and Maximizing Your Odds of Having a Baby, Dr. Mark P. Trolice, a Board-certified OB/GYN and fertility specialist in Winter Park, Fla. details the pervasive bias in his own profession—and counsels LGBTQ on how to overcome it, where to go and what their options are.
[Expert from the chapter:] “Trying to be diplomatic in a conservative hospital, I respectfully—but clearly—expressed my passion for treating all those who are having difficulty conceiving a baby, whether they are a heterosexual married or unmarried couple, single woman, or lesbian/gay couple. His argument on why I should reconsider my position was not only futile but insulting when he asked, “Would you want a woman marching in a gay pride parade wearing a T-shirt with the statement, ‘Dr. Trolice helped me have my baby?’” Without any hesitation, I shot back, “Yes. Would you rather have her T-shirt say, ‘Dr. Trolice refused to help me have a baby?’” He was unable to respond—I made my point.”
Dr. Trolice, himself a former infertility patient, has created a guidebook to help infertility patients and their families understand their options and navigate the complexities of their particular situation.
“I have made it the mission of The Fertility Doctor’s Guide to Overcoming Infertility—as well as of my practice and entire professional life—to optimize the experience and maximize the success of every patient yearning to build a family.” – Dr. Trolice
Dr. Trolice is the Director of Fertility Care: The IVF Center (Center of Assisted Reproduction & Endocrinology) as well as clinical associate professor in the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology at the University of Florida in Gainesville and the University of Central Florida in Orlando.
Every patient who enters a physician’s office should feel welcome and have their concerns validated. This is especially true of the LGBTQ population where one third of transgender people who saw a health care provider in the prior year had at least one negative experience, such as being verbally harassed or refused treatment as cited by the 2015 U.S. Transgender Survey. Moreover, a 2014 report by the advocacy group Lambda Legal found more than half of lesbian, gay or bisexual survey respondents and 70% of transgender people had experienced discrimination while seeking health care.
How should LGBTQ couples find a compassionate infertility specialist? Certainly, the practice website should provide LGBTQ fertility options. Further, online reviews and discussions with other patients may provide important feedback. But the ultimate criteria are how you are made to feel when you enter the physician’s office. Is the staff friendly and open to all lifestyles? Are the patient questionnaires for gender friendly to the LGBTQ community? Is the doctor caring and committed to helping you?
“Reproductive technology now allows more family building options for the LGBTQ community than ever before. Whether by IUI, IVF, gestational carrier, donor egg, or donor sperm, as long as there is no medical contraindication, legal, or ethical restriction to provide treatment, it all comes down to the core belief that every person and couple deserve fertility care. Thankfully this belief is being embraced, albeit slowly, in the United States and around the world.”
Dr. Trolice’s new book, The Fertility Doctor’s Guide to Overcoming Infertility: Discovering Your Reproductive Potential and Maximizing Your Odds of Having a Baby, can be purchased online via Amazon, Barnes and Noble or Target.