I was fortunate to meet Melissa and Kim through some common friends while I was in Ohio to shoot a wedding. They are such an amazing couple and I was so inspired by them. Looking at the photos you can just feel the love!
Let’s start at the beginning. How did you two first meet?
Kim and I met in June of 2019 . We had seen one another on Bumble but Kim didn’t swipe right haha. We met a few weeks later at a LGBTQ+ social mixer for Stonewall Sports Cleveland. Kim was new to Cleveland having recently moved from Philadelphia. She missed the deadline for kickball and decided to still come to the mixer to meet new people. I’m on the board of the non profit and was there with my team. I recognized her from Bumble and struck up a conversation and the rest is history.
What makes your relationship special? Tell us some things that you both value in your time together. (example: pushing each other to new limits, love to travel, huge comic book fans, foodies, etc.) What makes your relationship unique?
I think our similarities and our differences bond us and simultaneously tease out the best traits in both of us. I (Melissa) am an extrovert who is planned, slightly spontaneous and outgoing. Kim is an introvert who is consistently calm, even keeled and quiet while being extremely adventurous.I encourage Kim to put herself out there in social situations, new dynamics and activities she might not normally do. Kim brings a level of peace to my life and gets me to step outside more normal planned day to day life. She exposes me to new food, new places, and new ways to look at the world. Together we share a love of books, food and wine, Harry Potter, music, board games, dancing together and exploring the world.
How did you know your partner was the one? When did you first know this in your relationship? (these may often be the same moment, but aren’t always)
Melissa’s Answer: Kim and I have always even from the beginning had this incredible comfort with each other. There was an ease in being together even when we first met. I never felt like I had to modify anything about myself at all. I could be silly, goofy, honest, and 100% genuine without fear of judgement or ridicule. Kim felt like she communicated and opened up more effortlessly than she ever had before. I felt like a truer version of myself than I ever had before. I realized we were making each other better versions of ourselves, each enhancing the other. When I had that realization, I remember telling my cousin, that I just knew she was the one.
Kim’s Answer: I don’t think I even consciously thought about her being the one. It was more just a seamless transition from this is my girlfriend to I want to marry this girl! There wasn’t any one thing that made me think “She’s the one!”. More like a series of small things that added up to this fullness, and I knew I didn’t want to have to experience any more of life without her. When I started looking at engagement rings for Melissa… I don’t know.. it was like that scene in Harry Potter and the Half Blood Prince, when Harry drinks the Felix Felices and he decides on a whim to go see Hagrid. And Ron and Hermione asked him why and he says “I don’t know. It just feels right.” That’s basically how I felt.