This elegant gay wedding took place at the University of Penn’s Museum of Archaeology. Sean and Philip celebrated their wedding and took pictures in the shadows of the Sphinx. They enjoyed an elegant dinner in the Chinese Rotunda and dancing amongst the mummies of ancient Egypt into the night.
We met in Washington, DC. Sean sang with the Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington DC, and Phil sang, and still sings with, the Philadelphia Gay Men’s Chorus. The two choruses had a joint concert in February 2007. Sean did not sing in that concert, but went to the after party where they met. They were introduced by Sean’s groomsmen, Rob. The rest is, as they say, history.
2. How long have you been together?
Eight-plus years since we met. We have been living together for six-and a half year. We were engaged in May 2014, and married in September 2015. We got married again in the UK in October 2015. Phil is British; Sean is American, so we had 2 ceremonies.
3. What is the biggest obstacle you’ve had to overcome as a couple?
We think moving in together. We both had to get used to our idiosyncratic ways of living. It was not a difficult process, but that is where everything coulf have collapsed. I think moving in together was a smoother process than either one of us imagined it would be.
4. What do you love the most about your spouse?
Sean: What I most love about Phil is his eternal optimism. If I have had a bad day at work or something bad happens, then I know he will cheer me up.
Phil: What I most love about Sean is his playful, joyful sense of humor.
5. Describe your wedding day:
Over too fast. Surreal. Overwhelming due to the fact that we never though this would be possible and seeing all of our disparate loved ones in one place. Fun with lots of good food, good music, good company, and dancing. Verklempt-making.
6. What was your favorite part?
Ceremony and the dancing.
7. Were there any surprises (good or bad) that happened?
Bad surprises: We had asked for no Frank Sinatra, and what was played. The situation was quickly rectified, however. Our cab was late. But all minor bad surprises.
Good surprises: the look of U Penn Archaeological Museum. We really did not know what it would look like until we got there. Being British, Phil was surprised that his brother gave such an emotional speech. Sean remembers one of his friend’s saying it is not longer gay marriage, it is just marriage.
8. What advice would you give to other couples planning their wedding?
Keep on top of it with due dates and dates you would like to have tasks done by, like mailing invitations. We had a long list of things that had to be done by our front door, and we would cross them out when we completed them. It was overwhelming at first, but being able to look at what had to be done and crossing it off our list was satisfying and sanity-insuring.
Have fun with it. Take your time, don’t rush the process if you would like a bigger wedding. Chill out. Don’t let it stress you out, though it probably will. Take a vacation (weekend trip) away from wedding planning that helped us approach it with more enthusiasm.
9. Now that the wedding is over, what are your goals or future plans as a married couple?
Travel the world. We plan to continue to enjoy and support each other and enjoy all of the thrills life has to offer. We have already made a home together, the wedding was just the final touch.