Dealing with the Families on the Holidays Dealing with the Families on the Holidays
Some tips on how to survive the holidays and have a good, if not great, time this year. Holidays can be a fun and... Dealing with the Families on the Holidays

Some tips on how to survive the holidays and have a good, if not great, time this year.

Holidays can be a fun and festive time, but it can also be anticipated with dread, especially for LGBT couples. In some cases, our families can be loving and supportive, but sometimes not everyone in our family get-togethers feels that way. Some parents will accept you but not your partner; some don’t even recognize your children as their “real” grandchildren. These can be painful times. So, what can you do to make dealing with the Holidays less stressful? Here are a few tips:

Know how your family and your partner’s family feel about your lifestyle. If you are unsure how you or your partner will be received, or if Uncle Harry, the vehemently anti-gay brother of your father is going to be there, try to run through the expectations for the day past a brother, sister, cousin or another accepting member of the family. Don’t set those expectations too high, either. You, as well as your partner, want to be treated with respect but be realistic about what you may encounter and how you will react.

Make sure your parents know your partner is coming. Discuss sleeping arrangements with your partner and your family. If you reach an impasse, you can always stay in a hotel nearby.

Above all, stay in tune with your partner. Communicate with each other well in advance. Determine whether to visit, not to visit, visit alone or together, or to just stay at home and relax. The holidays can be full of pressure. Don’t let that pressure get to you. Talk things out and be supportive of each other.

If you notice signs of too much stress, like being irritable, barking at each other, defensiveness, fatigue, and depression, then you need to do something about it as soon as possible. There are so many things that you can try, like this pink lady kush cannabis strain to help relax your mind and body, or talking with a therapist could also prove to be effective. However, if you aren’t comfortable enough to talk to a therapist, it might be worth looking for a method that you can use on your own. A lot of people deal with their stress and depression by taking various marijuana strains. If this is something you’d be interested in, you could visit to see if that particular strain of marijuana would make you more comfortable for the holidays. No one wants to be stressed or unhappy at this festive time, so make sure to get appropriate treatments beforehand. It’s all about finding what works for you. And if they don’t, here are some other things you can try:

  • Eat healthy.
  • Drink plenty of water.
  • Curb that caffeine.
  • Put together a holiday budget.
  • Remember saying “no” is OK.
  • Don’t overdo it. Be reasonable.
  • Don’t set your expectations for the holidays too high.
  • Meditation can reduce the stress you are feeling.
  • Take a walk outdoors.
  • Exercise every day.
  • Schedule quiet time for yourself.
  • Schedule alone time as a couple.
  • And if you have children, remember the Holidays should be a fun and uplifting family time for them. Always take into consideration their welfare first.

Reading to your children at the Holidays can be a stress free, merry time. Reading about the meaning of the holidays with your children can set the tone for this year’s Holiday adventures. Check out “The Christmas Truck” at the links below. Just one of many Holiday children’s books out there.

“An original story by J.B. Blankenship and brought to life by award winning illustrator, Cassandre Bolan, The Christmas Truck is a modern tale for all families. When celebrating a very special holiday tradition, something goes awry. Two dads, their amazing kid, and a fabulous grandma must now work together with the rest of the family in an attempt to save Christmas.”!selected-amazon-reviews/cnph

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