Q1: Tell us about your wedding! What was the inspiration behind your day? Did you have a specific theme, style or color palette? Did you incorporate any cultural or religious traditions in any part of your day?
A1: My husband (then fiance) loves anything Art Deco. We found a venue that was from this era and (best of all) fit our budget. All elements that we used for our wedding were Deco-inspired. We cannot imagine our wedding being in any other location—it was perfect for us and the size of our event.
Q2: Let’s talk wedding decor. How did you decorate your space for the ceremony and the reception? Was any part of the decor DIY?
A2: The caterer took care of the decor, for the most part. We supplied the table numbers, table cards, and program—all with an Art Deco inspiration. It helps that one of us is a graphic designer. I made sure that all our graphics worked as a series.
Q3: What were the florals like in your wedding? Did you use flowers in any of your design elements like the bridal bouquets, centerpieces or ceremony backdrop? Did they play an important part in the overall style of your wedding?
A3: Every wedding has a couple of mishaps, right? Well, the florals are a funny subject. The ones we ordered never arrived. We ran to Michael’s craft store and bought all of their faux florals that looked similar to our original bouquets. We created arrangements on the aisle floor to make sure we had enough for each table—then ran to the cashier. The original bouquets were not missed. Nobody knows this “faux pas” but us!
Q4: Did you personalize the day in any way (food trucks, guest entertainment etc.)? What were some of your favorite parts of your wedding?
A4: There is a Jewish tradition where the husband and wife walk in a circle each (as a joined couple) 7 times. As a gay couple, we chose to rethink this tradition and made it unique to us. Instead of us circling 7 times by ourselves, we chose 7 special guests to walk each separate loop with us. We walked the last circle by ourselves to keep that part of the tradition. The other unique element that was part of our wedding is our program. We were so happy that our guests could celebrate with us! We called out each guest in our program saying how we met them and the history of our friendship. We had no wedding party; EVERYONE was special to us. That said, we hid our rings under a chair—and we had no assigned seating. Whoever had the box under their seat was the person to bring us our rings when called by the Officiant. The ring bearer was just as surprised as we were.
Q5: Let’s talk fashion. How did you choose your wedding day look? How did the groom? Describe both looks in detail.
A5: Sadly, wedding outfits are not the most fun for guys marrying other guys. That does not keep us from trying to be unique! We wore special socks that had cactus from California (and matched our wedding colors) so we can have a taste of home (West Coast) at our ceremony (East Coast).
Q6: How did you meet? Tell us about the proposal.
A6: We met at a bar in NYC, where we were both living at the time. When LGBT marriages were announced as “legal”, we decided to get engaged. We were together for 10 years. We have a funny proposal story as well: We both surprised each other. Charlie had a bowl turned over on the kitchen counter that I needed to move in order to make dinner one night. A ring box was underneath. It was beautiful! Being a small fry, the ring (sadly) was too large. The maker did not have a size small enough for me. We, instead, decided to go the handmade route. An artisan hailing from Georgia had rings that we both adored and (most importantly) could fit my thin fingers. We were her first ever same-sex couple to commission a set of wedding rings. They arrived in the mail the day before we moved to California. I had them in my pocket when we went through airport security—and I didn’t tell Charlie that they had been completed. I talked to the security guy so I didn’t have to put them in the tray for X-rays. Charlie would see them. So, when we arrived at our new place, we started unpacking. I ran to the corner store to pick up a bottle of champagne and flowers knowing that he was distracted. When I came back, I surprised him.
Q7: What was the most anticipated or special moment of your wedding day?
A7: We planned a choreographed dance to a song that was an old favorite among Charlie’s friends. Little did we know that our guests from the UK had the steps memorized as well. They surprised us on stage at the end of the song and were the BEST back up dancers one could ever wish for. I do not think anyone had more fun that us at that moment. It was the best gift we never asked for.
Q8: Do you have any wedding planning or marriage advice that you’d like to share with other couples planning their day?
A8: Relax and go with the flow! Things will happen that do not according to your “plan”. This is 100% okay—they make GREAT stories for the future. “OMG! Remember when…. ”