Selecting wedding vendors is one part fun, one part anxiety. It will take research and networking to find those wedding professionals who perfectly mesh with your tastes and budget. Don’t worry – your ideal vendors are out there. And they have some things they’d like to share with you.
Unless you’ve worked in the wedding industry, the chances that you’ll understand the nuances behind the scenes are slim, and that’s okay!
We’ve listed out five things all wedding vendors would like you to know, but won’t tell you.
1. Weddings are Expensive for a Reason
If you’re like most couples that are trying to pay for a wedding, you flinch every time you hear the cost of wedding cakes, flowers or planning services. It’s normal, and most wedding professionals are used to it, but it doesn’t mean they like being numb to it.
Wedding vendors work extremely hard. Most are small business owners and depend on their talents, such as photography or culinary skills, to pay their bills and send their kids to college.
Those who work in the wedding industry give up weekends and holidays to ensure your day goes perfectly, which is why prices are at a premium.
It’s true in the wedding industry that price is an indicator of quality. That doesn’t necessarily mean the most expensive caterer is the best, but you should be wary of those who low-ball or offer specials that seem too good to be true. It might come back to haunt you in the long run if you’re too stingy.
2. Most of the Work is Done Behind the Scenes
While your wedding day is full of work for vendors, the months and weeks leading up to it are where your vendors truly shine. Most wedding vendors will put in hours upon hours of work to ensure your day runs smoothly.
From meetings to emails, wedding vendors are constantly focused on the client’s happiness. If you’ve vetted your wedding vendors carefully, but they aren’t getting back to you, don’t take it personally. Most vendors work extremely long hours, and if you’re emailing or calling at the height of wedding season, chances are, they’re just focusing on weddings in order.
3. They Love Ideas, but…
Wedding vendors, especially florists, photographers and decorators, love it when you give them an overall vision for your day. If they could tell you the truth, that’s where they most likely want you to stop.
If you’ve hired professional vendors who have experience, you should trust them to make your wedding day unique and beautiful. Scrolling through Pinterest and sending your photographer exact photo shots is not the point of hiring a professional photographer. And if the truth were told, those gorgeous candid shots you see happen because the couple let the professional do his or her job. They’re organic, not staged.
Give your vendors some direction, but don’t demand exact things of them unless you absolutely hate a certain flower, color or style.
4. You Pay for Others Who Didn’t Book
Wedding professionals waste a lot of time with what we’ll label wedding window shoppers. These shoppers love to price hunt and are only interested in finding the lowest price out there.
But wedding vendors can’t recognize wedding window shoppers until it’s too late, and they’ve wasted hours in meetings and phone calls with them.
Someone somewhere has to make up for that cost.
Enter Lovely Couple, stage left (YOU).
Every wedding vendor assesses their pricing in this manner in order to make ends meet, so don’t take it personally.
5. At the end of the day, They’re the Professionals – Trust Them
Do you feel confident in the choices you’ve made for wedding vendors? If so, then give yourself a pat on the back and relax.
Any wedding vendor would want you to be confident in their abilities. Otherwise, they wouldn’t have wanted you to hire them. Trust is the basis for all relationships, and you should trust your wedding professionals to the fullest to make your wedding day amazing!